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In the following lines, I believe you will discover some really obvious reasons why most people no matter how hard they try, are never happy.
The harder they work, the more the frustrations they create in their lives.
I believe one of our primary goals is the pursuit of happiness.
Why then, does it seem to happen to only a few?
What is it that we are not aware of that’s robbing us of our happiness in life? And how can we make the change necessary to restore a more happy living?
There are very obvious reasons behind the level of happiness we feel in life, including the level of misery and frustration we experience.
In the words of Ralph Hars: “Happiness is a choice, not a result. Noting will make you happy until you chose to be happy. No person will make you happy until you decide to be happy. Your happiness will not come to you, it can only come from you.”
In my own observation, there are 5 basic myths that are still keeping us from living the life designed for designed for us.
Look, I don’t want you to believe what I am telling you, but what I want you to do is make an observation for yourself, try to see if any of these things relate to you, and if they do, you can then decide whether or not to change your own beliefs and try new ones.
So, here are the following myths.
Myth #1. I Will Be Happy When I Become Successful.
This belief is at the top of the list because it is the most wildly spread belief that has a ripple in our societies
People are not happy because they think they have to acquire something or be something before they can be happy.
“waiting to be happy may keep you waiting for ever. Happiness is a self-made decision. If you want to be happy, then decide to be happy and you will find happiness flowing from you not to you.”
In Neale Donalds Walshe awesome teaching, he explains how human beings are not put here to simply grow and evolve and become more than we already are but to give all that we are.
Happiness is just a brand of energy, if it doesn’t flow from you, it won’t flow to you. So, in other words, if you don’t create it, you don’t find it.
Science over the decades have begun to uncover some marvelous brain features, and one of the most dominant of all is the issue of happiness as it is a major sought out experience by most humans.
And what they found is only beginning to gain recognition in our modern world: happy thoughts create happy experiences.
So, happiness while happiness is not only self-generated without thoughts, you can see that there is obviously no attachment to how happy you feel and what is actually going on around you.
This is the misleading belief most of us are having: that we have to be something or have something before we ever become happy.
There are limitless reasons for us to be happy every day, whether it is doing something we love to do, or being with people and creating happy experiences together, or even just being with nature.
All of these depends not on anything outside of us like material possessions. They are entirely things within our ability to control.
Once again, hoping in the future when there is some sort of break to be happy will only make you keep hoping. Happiness does not happen in the future, you find a reason to be happy now.
I was taking a brisk walk down my area some years ago, and I heard of a group of persons laughing out loud, like really loud.
You know that kind of laugh you laugh when you are really happy, I mean the kind that leaves your stomach hurting? Good.
I turned around and found about 8 to 10 little kids all sitting in wheelchairs all having real happy looks on their face. None of them had a look of a physically disabled person on the face.
And it left me thinking: “People with complete hands and legs find a hard time conjuring up such happy experiences, but here were kids without legs who don’t feel they have no legs, laughing as though nothing is happening.”
From that moment, I just thought that perhaps life doesn’t have to be perfect for us to be happy. We can choose to be happy whenever we want to.
I believe there are countless reasons in your life that you can be happy and grateful for, you perhaps haven’t searched for one.
It could be as simple as having a tongue to taste good food. (LoL)
Myth #2. The Best Years Of My Life Are Over.
Another dangerous belief that most us have is that the best part of our lives are over. Maybe in the past, we had some really exciting experiences, we tend to think that those happy days are gone and will never return.
But here is the good news, and you either choose to believe it or not but it still doesn’t matter. You haven’t even seen what life has to offer you.
Did you know you can make it a quest to live happily every day of your life? It’s just a simple decision you have to make.
No matter how challenging your present moment may be, your happy days are yet to come. The ones you’ve in the past is just a tip of the iceberg.
God’s plan for you is to live every day in happiness and enjoyment. And not until you begin to be truly grateful for the little things you have in your life, forgetting about the things that may not be working well for you now, you cannot find a good reason to be happy.
Science has uncovered that a mind of gratitude tends to attract more things to be grateful for.
“I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness because it shows me the stars.”
In reality, the major reason that keeps most of us from being happy is the fact that we cannot handle the challenges in our lives. When we struggle with our challenges, it leaves us feeling exhausted, having less energy to experience the reality of the eternal NOW.
We should understand that we are not the ones in control here. That there is a BIGGER force at work in us, and that life can play out the way we least expect sometimes, but that is what makes it life.
Whether or not life is perfect, we can still choose to be happy, regardless. It only depends on our decision to not allow the happenings of life rob us of our happiness.
As you may have guessed, happiness is independent of the past, present or future. Happiness is a choice we can make now, and we can literally create on demand.
Choose to be happy every day regardless of the condition of life. Learn how to put out positive energy into the universe because it is what you put out you get back.
Thinking your happy days are over is like playing the Russian roulette. It’s preparing you for a life of boredom, misery, anger, envy, hate, and ultimately death.
You can always find reasons in your life to be happy for. The gift of life is perhaps the most important reason you could ever have because hey, you could be gone the next minute.
So, BE HAPPY NOW.
Myth #3. I Will Be Happy When I Meet The Right Person.
To be honest, I used to think like this.
The problem with this belief is that it does something very dangerous to you.
It puts you on the “seeker plane” of life. Rather than making depend on you for their happiness, it makes you depend on someone for your own happiness. As Neale Donald Walsche described in an interview, when you wait for someone else to bring you the things you want, you might wait forever for that and you might even die waiting.
“Never wait for the right one. Become the right one.”
Personally, I used to depend on people to make me feel happy, especially when I’m in a relationship. I mistakenly thought that when you are in a relationship with someone, it is their role to make you happy.
Well, I later found that I was actually reversing the process. You don’t wait for another person to be happy, you make others wait for you to be happy. It’s called being “the source.”
So, if you are expecting to find the right person before you experience happiness in your life, then you need to start changing that program and start thinking of ways to make others feel happy being with you.
There is a psychological truth that when you make people always feel happy by being around you, they tend to associate you with feeling happy. It increases their attraction for you since their brains will always seek things or people that make them happy.
So, keep that in mind the next time you try to win or influence someone. Give them what their brains want, and they will become addicted to you.
Myth #4. A Bigger Paycheck Will Increase Happy.
“wealth is not of the purse, it’s of the heart.”
It’s a very common thing for us to think that we will be truly happy when we have acquired all the money we want.
We know that money is like oxygen, it’s something you can’t live without it. But there is no amount of money you have in the bank that will buy you a cup of happiness cake.
So, satisfying both your material life and your inner life is quite different. Money will provide you the things necessary for daily life, but it cannot give you true happiness.
Studies show that some billionaires suffer more depression and heart attacks due to compound stress.
It requires more than money to be truly happy. It requires our own understanding of our outer and inner life. Learn to identify the wall between these two.
Most of us judge our inward life with what goes on in their outward life, so it is very difficult for someone who does not understand his mind to be happy inwardly when, in fact, he is going through a lot of physical and emotional challenges coming from his outward experience.
If we can appreciate life, give thanks even for the challenges of our life whether or not they are good, if we can do that, then it happens that we do not require the external world to be perfect before we feel true happiness.
Like I always say, true happiness for me happens when I take pleasure in the simple things that matter in life, like taking a ten-minutes walk or even having a meaningful conversation with a friend.
Quit waiting for a raise or steady finance in order to feel happy, you can be happy and grateful for the simplest things in your life.
Keep in mind that the happier you feel now, the more happy experiences you will draw into your life.
Myth #5. You Are Less Happy At Old Age.
However truthful this may sound, it’s not so.
Have you ever felt scared of growing older?
I have. At one time in my life, I actually thought you less enjoy life when you are old. Like all the enjoyments happen when we are still in our youth.
But as studies have shown that most people actually grow happy and stronger as they grow older due to their individual energy and vibration.
So, if you are still worried about growing old and not enjoying life the way you want to, quit worrying because there is even more stored up for you as you age. I will suggest you begin to prepare your mind for happy years to come.
It goes without saying that the reason people get scared of growing old is the fear of poverty and lack and sickness and death.
If you already know your life’s purpose, then you need not focus your energy on these negative feelings. However, if you don’t know your purpose yet, then it’s easy to feel insecure about the future.
Napoleon Hills said: “The most common cause of fear of old age is associated with the possibility of poverty”
There is a post here that teaches you how to find your purpose and live every day with excitement, feel free to check it out.
We sometimes feel this fear at some point in our lives, but as we grow up, we must begin to unlearn these negative mindsets that we have learned to think over time and instead begin to plant in more prosperity ideas in our minds.
The truth is this; you feel more confident about your future if you are preparing for it now, however, you feel insecure about it when you have no plans for it to be better.
As human beings, our happiness in life is threatened and denied by many factors, but, if we decide to ignore these factors and move through the process, we can decide to make our own happiness more of a choice.
Would you rather worry about something you have no control over? Or be happy with the simple things in life.
Sometimes, when I am going through a challenge, I do not like to let it bother me, so what I do instead, is either take a ten-minutes walk, or just sit somewhere quiet and just listen and appreciate the sounds of the birds, and other forms of life.
This activity alone has the potential to make you forget about any challenge you may be going through and just notice the happiness and freedom happening all around you.
You may not be able to always control the experiences in your life, but you can decide on how they make you feel
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